Moving Out of the Way and Allowing Things to Unfold

Back in 2012 when I was receiving Gnan Vidhi, a ceremony to invoke knowledge of self or self realization by a guru of Dadashri I learned a lesson.

The guru while explaining the spiritual practice of detachment, used the example of scientific circumstances to explain our lack of control over everything. Now science means knowledge, so the term basically means knowledge of everything. The theory explains that at any given time there is many different components making up any and all experiences. Most of these components we are unaware of.

Involvement or attachment to people and situations is often the cause of our suffering. Many people, places, things and circumstances are occurring and affecting one another on a subtle level. Because of a lack of awareness it is easy to assume lone responsibility for making things happen.

The example the guru used was making a cup of tea. To make a cup of tea one needs a teapot, a tea bag, water fire, milk or lemon and sweetener. If these components are missing we are unable to make the tea properly. Yet a human would claim that he alone is making the tea.

The guru jokes that if the teapot could speak it would claim to make the tea. If the tea bag could speak it would claim to make the tea. However as stated before if any of the components we're missing there would be no tea. The point in this matter is recognizing that we truly have no control over anything outside of ourselves. Keeping this in mind can help to deal with people, situations and circumstances that bring us discomfort. When we take the time too step back from the situation and recognize and accept that we have no control over it, it allows us to be free. We can then redirect attention to how we choose to react and withdraw our energy from an undesired outcome.

It is important to know when to pick your battles. It is also important to recognize that where attention goes energy flows. This can be especially hard when dealing with someone that you love or with a situation that affects your livelihood. However continuously giving attention to something outside of your control will cause stress.
If the situation involves another party there may be conflict if you do not allow that person to resolve their own problems.

Often when there is an attachment to a person their actions can be taken personally. When a person is experiencing pain and they are hurting it is easy to hurt people around them. We must learn to hold space for others from a distance.

Learn to explore the possibility of getting out of the way and allowing things to flow. A part of acceptance is to allow things out of our control to be. Allowing situations to happen without getting involved does not mean we are not concerned. It means our concern can be channelled without anxiety or conflict by holding space in our hearts or mind. Sending love, encouragement and intenions for the highest achievable outcome available.

Removing oneself from conflict can spare us pain and suffering and allow for things to be worked out for the better. It's always more beneficial to focus energy on the things that we do want instead of the outcome we don't want.

With the highest love,
Rayna aka Lady Rays Howe
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